no one can be ready for marriage before marriage because nothing prepares us for marriage except marriage.

I thought of you when I read this quote from “The Self-Centered Marriage: The Revolutionary ScreamFree Approach to Rebuilding Your “We” by Reclaiming Your “I”” by Hal Edward Runkel, Jenny Runkel – “

She knew that she loved me, but she wasn’t sure that she could be a good spouse, capable of loving me, gulp … forever. And this gave her a need for some space. She needed to take some time alone so that she could really ask herself, “Am I at all ready to become a lifelong partner?” Well, of course she wasn’t. In the astute words of Dr. David Schnarch in Passionate Marriage, no one can be ready for marriage before marriage because nothing prepares us for marriage except marriage. But at least Jenny was asking some good questions. My questions, on the other hand, were only about the event itself, and my focus was only on making public, and official, our togetherness.

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QUOTE (emphasis mine):

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NOTE (my commentary)

STRATEGY:

DISCERNMENT QUESTIONS
What gets my attention?
Do I understand the need or problem?
Do I understand the potential solution?
Do I understand how to apply that strategy?
What questions do I have for the experts? What might be the answers?
Who needs to hear this?
What do I do next?

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