… we all get anxiously reactive.

I thought of you when I read this quote from “The Self-Centered Marriage: The Revolutionary ScreamFree Approach to Rebuilding Your “We” by Reclaiming Your “I”” by Hal Edward Runkel, Jenny Runkel – “

That’s the power of emotional reactivity; that’s the power of screaming. It just leads to more reactivity from our spouse, which creates the very outcome we were hoping to avoid in the first place.

The Power of Screaming

The truth is, we all “scream” in our marriages, because we all get anxiously reactive. And this reactivity can take several aggressive forms, like yelling, raging, or even hitting. It can also manifest itself through passive-aggressive behavior, like shutting yourself down and shutting your partner out. All are different, yet equally powerful, examples of getting reactive. There are, in fact, many ways to scream.*

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QUOTE (emphasis mine):


NOTE (my commentary)


What gets my attention?
Do I understand the need or problem?
Do I understand the potential solution?
Do I understand how to apply that strategy?
What questions do I have for the experts? What might be the answers?
Who needs to hear this?
What do I do next?

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