W8.01: Patterns of my Behavior Show Truth

Patterns of my Behavior Show Truth

I am drawn to stories of romance, nobility and heroism. Couples Falling in Love.

I love reading about intimacy, people getting close, people working together smoothly as a team that functions almost like a family in terms of loyalty and nurture. This probably relates to the lack of companionship early in my childhood.

I’ve come to the conclusion that this means that I feel a need for friends with whom I can be intimate, honest and close, and with whom I share the same interests.

A dozen good friends who are interesting and not boring would be a very good thing. This is a common theme in our culture, demonstrated in all kinds of television shows like Friends or NCIS.

Friendship implies common ground and mutually beneficial conversation, which means friends that understand me that are interested in what I have an interest in. Common ground.

I am drawn to reading in the area of my health and my marriage. I am drawn to conversations with others about these topics, participate in them daily and responding two others. I belong to to paid website communities for relationships and for diabetes and fasting and participate daily and with great interest and enthusiasm.

I belong to a website Community for writers and have completely avoided it for months now. About 4 months. I still read information about writing but it does not have the fascination for me that it once did.

I belong to multiple website communities for productivity, but I may have all the productivity information that I need as I am not working at the courses or exploring for more information. I am irritated by what seems to me to be shallow enthusiastic encouragement combined with relentless marketing. Brendan Burchard and Benjamin Hardy would be examples for me.

Of course, I participate in website communities regarding both faith and church work. There is not much new information here to draw me in as I already have pretty much all of the expertise that I require.

I have always loved teaching and sharing my knowledge, but with the DM 101 online course and the Facebook group for my opw course, I am avoiding interactions with my students. It doesn’t feel interesting as it once did. I still feel passionate about sharing the results of my research, but you can’t see this in my behavior. I am blessed when people pay attention to what I have to say, as I am somewhat needy of affirmation, but I am not drawing the attention of others and I know of no reason why that would suddenly change.

I wonder if practicing the Network Tools from my dissertation will provide excellent Common Ground friendships with people in my church.

I wonder about using WOOP in my SHALOM pattern for greater understanding of what I really want.




NOTE – What does it say?

What gets your attention?
What human needs or problems are addressed?
What questions do you have?
What solution or hope does it offer?

What does it say that we need to obey?
What would a camera see if this happened?
Who needs to hear this?
What are the actual steps that I would take?

SOURCE – Footnotes:



 All Scripture quotations are from the Revised Standard Version of the Bible, copyright © 1946, 1952, and 1971 National Council of the Churches of Christ in the United States of America. Used by permission. All rights reserved.

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QUOTE (emphasis mine):


NOTE (my commentary)


What gets my attention?
Do I understand the need or problem?
Do I understand the potential solution?
Do I understand how to apply that strategy?
What questions do I have for the experts? What might be the answers?
Who needs to hear this?
What do I do next?

SOURCE – Footnotes:

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