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WOOP LISTS Area: MRS
Area: MRS
Every system is perfectly designed to get the results it gets. W. Edwards Deming
Therefore, adjust the system controls!

Wish: MRS = Marriage; love flows.
Outcomes: I can trust and rely upon my wife to care for me and take care of me. And I take care of her. This meets my neglected childhood needs for connection, stability and love.
Feasible? Yes
Obstacles: (If) … Plan: (Then)

Wish: MRS = Romance; love flows.
Outcomes: we are like young lovers or like kids in junior high with a crush on each other. This meets my neglected adolescent needs for connection and love.
Feasible? Yes.
Obstacles: (If) … Plan: (Then)

Wish: MRS = Sexuality; love flows.
Outcomes: I am physically ready for sex, and limber because I do my exercises faithfully. When my beloved is available, I make love with her. When she is not available I make love to myself. This lovemaking meets my neglected adult needs for physical connection, emotional intimacy and adult love.
Feasible? Yes.
Obstacles: (If) … Plan: (Then)

Wish: MRS = Testing; what time is it?
Outcomes: ONE THING: MRS: Test for Interest, Walk through Open Doors; or Detach. Enjoy Dessert.
Feasible? Yes.
Obstacles: (If) … Plan: (Then)

Wish: Amygdala hijack protocol
Outcomes:
Feasible? Yes.
Obstacles: (If) … Plan: (Then)

Wish: problem solving protocol
Outcomes:
Feasible? Yes.
Obstacles: (If) … Plan: (Then)

Wish: sharing information protocol
Outcomes:
Feasible? Yes.
Obstacles: (If) … Plan: (Then)

Authors: Glover, Gottman, Hendrix, Norwood, Schnarch, et al

Wish: libido strength training
Outcomes:
Feasible? Yes.
Obstacles: (If) … Plan: (Then)

DISCERNMENT QUESTIONS
What gets your attention?
What human needs or problems are addressed?
What questions do you have?
What solution or hope does it offer?

What does it say that we need to obey?
What would a camera see if this happened?
Who needs to hear this?
What are the actual steps that I would take?

SOURCE – Footnotes:

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Key: Woop#  Last Revision: 11/05/2020

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