Blogging 201.07c: Goal-Setting: The BigWIG Lecture: Pain #3

Goal-Setting: The BigWIG Lecture

 EDITDavid (Learner, Strategic, Individualization, Input, Connectedness/ENFJ/I)8 Days Ago

I want to register my pain today. There are actually three. As a pastor, there’s a lot of contemplation on what we call “the calling.” In 1973, I decided that this related to the parable of the talents – Matthew 25. I decided that my calling was to be responsible for the good investment of all that I received … my talents … and absolutely not to bury it in the ground, unused, wasted. My talents, of course, include writing.


#3. My third pain is from dealing with a lifetime of recovery from codependency and rescuing people – in fact, I turned “pro” by becoming a pastor. There are other realities that complicate my life. As a Learner/Strategic Strengths person, I wonder if my original draw to writing is intertwined with my emotional health challenges. Perhaps writing is my attempt to resolve my own problems … and now being happily married, perhaps I have different problems.

The simplest “ladder” is about determining what I like and enjoy, and do more of that. Knowing what is fun and happy making can lead me out of this hole to do writing that I will find rewarding. But … I haven’t a clue to what is fun, or what I enjoy. 


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Becca Syme8 Days Ago

I’m going to pull one of these quotes: “Perhaps writing is my attempt to resolve my own problems … and now being happily married, perhaps I have different problems.”


I do think this is very true. I’m going to make a note for your one-on-one to discuss this, and also, I want you to think about a couple of things as you move through class.


1) Sometimes the purpose of Input/Learner is just to gather. (Ideas, information, etc.) Sometimes, what we’re doing with that gathering is actually fulfilling the purpose of the gathering itself, which is to build that Learner/Input capacity. Speaking as a fellow Connectedness… when the correct idea presents itself, you will not struggle to write it. (More on this in the coaching call, but for now, let me just say:) Sometimes the purpose of the gathering is literally to gather. To prepare for the future. And this is the truth of Input/Learner. Sometimes the purpose of the gathering is to make energy pennies to get us through whatever we need to get through.


2) Start making some notes for your one-on-one about “resolve my own problems.” Think granularly. If all the previous ideating about writing was to solve problems you don’t have anymore, then what are the problems you have now? And how might writing solve those?


Also, do you happen to have your Full34? If you do, please send those to Annette. If not, no worries. Just checking!

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David (Learner, Strategic, Individualization, Input, Connectedness/ENFJ/I)8 Days Ago EDIT

Thanks. I sent the PDF report that I have.

If anyone else is interested, they are listed here:
https://realitydisciplines.com/2021/06/22/david-kueker-cliftonstrengths-34/

David (Learner, Strategic, Individualization, Input, Connectedness/ENFJ/I)10 Days Ago EDIT

“I seem to move into avoidance when every blessed possible task seems equally pressing.” 
Me, too. Oh, yes.

If only the world would end if I didn’t buckle down to do the work  on a specific task … so that this crisis would motivate me. But as the world won’t end, I find it so easy to drift, procrastinate and avoid. Oh, wow, has the NCIS marathon started yet?

The other form this takes with me is to polish a task for a few minutes, then move to another, and then another, such that I’ve been writing for hours … but nothing got finished.

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David (Learner, Strategic, Individualization, Input, Connectedness/ENFJ/I)10 Days Ago EDIT

I really appreciate how you explained your need for structure and your desire to experience a system that runs smoothly … on cruise control … with a template … a workbook handed to you to run your life on. 


I’ve yearned for the same my whole life.

Jim Collins called this the Flywheel in the book, Good to Great, and I’ve adopted that name for my yearning.

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Mo (Context/Intellection/Discipline/Deliberative/Connectedness | INTJ | Stability)10 Days Ago

Hi David, Oh my God. I missed that in my reading of Good to Great. That is exactly the state I am aspiring to. Thank you for sharing and giving me a concrete conceptual framework. 


Mo (Context/Intellection/Discipline/Deliberative/Connectedness | INTJ | Stability)
9 Days Ago

I just had an epiphany. What I am
essentially desiring is a life operating system and my mission is to essentially
install it into my life – which August Bradley already actually covers in his
Life Operating System course called Pillars, Pipelines and Vaults.

@David, I am re-listening to August Bradley
and his Emergence principle is very similar the flywheel concept.

Exciting stuff. 

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David (Learner, Strategic, Individualization, Input, Connectedness/ENFJ/I)9 Days Ago EDIT

I am very interested in exactly the same thing … but have never heard of August Bradley, or his Life Operating System course called Pillars, Pipelines and Vaults … thanks for the connection!


David (Learner, Strategic, Individualization, Input, Connectedness/ENFJ/I)
10 Days Ago EDIT

“…but when they finish the book they want to reexamine their lives.” Love how you said this.

I also very much desire to do the same.

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Chautona10 Days Ago

There are days when I work very similarly to how you do here.  I hate those days but I keep telling myself that those little sprints are better than nothing
I don’t always believe me.

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Becca Syme9 Days Ago

Chelsea (and others), if you are dominant in Green (Strategic Thinking) Strengths (Context, Input, Ideation, Intellection, Learner, Futuristic, Analytical, etc.), then it’s common that the first 1k will be “pump-priming.” So let’s make a note to make sure we talk about this in your coaching call.

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Chelsea (Strategic, Individualization, Learner, Achiever, Competition)9 Days Ago

Chautona – I figure progress is progress, but I just want it to flow more quickly, you know?

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Chelsea (Strategic, Individualization, Learner, Achiever, Competition)9 Days Ago

Becca – Definitely noted! Thanks. 

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David (Learner, Strategic, Individualization, Input, Connectedness/ENFJ/I)9 Days Ago EDIT

Green: 7 out of my top ten are “green” aka Strategic.

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David (Learner, Strategic, Individualization, Input, Connectedness/ENFJ/I)10 Days Ago EDIT

“I also like having time to get invested in and infatuated with the story I’m writing.” 

It’s been a very long time since I’ve loved what I’m writing to the level of a crush, or even affection. You really named it for me.

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David (Learner, Strategic, Individualization, Input, Connectedness/ENFJ/I)10 Days Ago EDIT

Yes, me, too! “There is always another new and shiny thing that I want to focus my time and energy on (thanks a lot Activator, lol), and suddenly I’m rethinking my whole strategy for the 100th time …” I do this a lot.

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David (Learner, Strategic, Individualization, Input, Connectedness/ENFJ/I)9 Days Ago EDIT

“New and shiny syndrome is a familiar siren call. 😉 “


This so very true for me, but backwards. I have a great fear and anxiety about boredom, as if yielding to it will lead to sliding into depression and then drop into the pit of what Becca describes as burnout. Skipping the slide, just dropping right in.

It’s like a fix … relief … but also like medicine. I need me some shiny. To survive.

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NOTE

MY STRATEGY: (Application)

DISCERNMENT QUESTIONS
What gets my attention?
Do I understand the need or problem?
Do I understand the potential solution?
Do I understand how to apply that strategy?
What questions do I have for the experts? What might be the answers?
Who needs to hear this?
What do I do next?

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